Category Archives: tactics

Are You Talking Too Much

By Dr. Charles Fay

The other day I caught myself giving a lengthy speech about the importance of kids doing their chores and respecting their parents. Unfortunately, the speech was not to a group of people at a Love and Logic event. It was to my seven-year-old son in response to his eye-rolling and huffing about having to clean up after the dog.

I used to be a parenting expert. That is…until I had kids.

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When Kids Argue with Each Other

By Jedd Hafer

It came from the backseat. It crept up while we were on the phone. It wasn’t a monster, but something much more menacing – kids arguing.

Have you noticed that kids pick the worst times to start bickering? Few things can be as annoying or draining for parents. What options do we have when kids argue with each other? How about:

  • Whether we are physically present to hear it or not?
  • How much we charge to listen to it?
  • How we react?
  • What we model?

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Cell Phones

By: Dr Charles Fay

More and more really good kids are getting in big trouble with cell phones.

Teachers are pulling their hair out over students who spend more time text messaging than learning. Some students are even using phones to take inappropriate pictures of test answers…and each other!

Teen drivers and cell phones create havoc…and death!

Parents are finding themselves in constant battles with their kids over huge cell phone bills, lost phones, stolen phones, damaged phones, phones being used at the dinner table and during church, phones being taken away at school, etc.

Here are some suggestions:

  • Be a good model. Don’t use your phone while driving, and show respect for others by turning it off when you should.
  • Let your child know that they can have a phone only when they can pay for the privilege.
  • Don’t fall into the trap of believing that your kid has to have a phone for safety reasons.
  • If the phone is lost, stolen, or taken away at school, it’s gone. Don’t buy them another.
  • Take it away if it becomes a problem.
While this advice may seem old-fashioned, parents who follow it raise far more respectful and responsible kids.

The 48 Hour Test

By Jim Fay

Trish and Dad were walking through the mall when Trish spied the most “spectacular” pair of dark glasses.

“Oh, Dad. They’re perfect. They’re just what I need to complete my collection of eye-wear. I’ve got to have them, but I don’t have the money. Will you loan me some? Pleeeeze! I’ll pay you back.”

Dad knew that a loan to Trish was never a loan. In the past, asking for re-payment drew fits and sulking. With this in mind, he knew that he had only three choices:

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Love and Logic and Autism

By Dr. Charles Fay

I’m often asked if Love and Logic applies to children with autism. For years, we’ve been hearing success stories from parents and professionals indicating the answer to this question:

Yes. While it doesn’t solve all of the child’s problems, Love and Logic really helps.

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